I don't have any good advice for you right now... it is such a crazy, crazy time. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you. And anything that increases your anxiety is probably not a good thing...feels a little like you are getting the short end of the stick on both sides, the anxiety of him MO and then not actually getting the space on your own because he's encroaching.
Hang in there. Hug your kids
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
