Keep listening to Sandi, just incredibly good advice for you atm.
In regards to "If she has to go to the office, then I will help out": Be every clear on your terms here. I did the mistake of allowing too much manipulation here. Definitely not helping her out any more. Not until I get some help in return. Not to such a bad deal since I got more time with my D's, but it is not good DB to help out too much. I would consider adding to your "helping out terms" that you will only be helping because of "essential job" during Corona.
Sandi, u mind giving my thread a visit? (begs)
Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021