I think Ellie has a good point. Time and time again your H keeps bring it up why don't you D him or kick him out? You have been consistant in your stance that its his decision and yet the cycle continues. Seems like a cheeseless tunnel and so its time to do something different.
What if the next time he brings it up you say, "OK, I'm putting my foot down on this once and for all so there is no more doubt in your mind what I want. I want you to stay! I want you in my bedroom! I want you to be my H!" < Maybe plant a big juicy one at this time> "So I'm not gonna kick you out and I don't want to D you."
