H, you decide, I want you to be happy... if you want a divorce, then we can do that. But, I would really prefer for us to stay together. If we decide to stay, I think you asking me when am I going to leave, you telling me you are leaving, you suggesting you want a D, it all has to stop. It is not helping for you to say those things... or whatever. Just eliminate those phrases...
Could you? Would he respect that boundary?
Sometimes just not going there is enough to keep you on the right track. If he wants reassurance, maybe you could get him to ask for it...
Who knows, Cathy... JMHO...
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
