don't plan more than a week out. these days, i'd keep it firmly in 15 minute increments.
You're right of course. I've always wanted to be one of those happy in the moment people but that kind of change generally requires pain. Until I my world collapsed it was easier to stay in my comfort zone.
It helps to remember the bad things about my M to cope with being left after 30 years.
We bought our first house in 1993 but when McMansions became a thing H wanted one. We couldn't afford it so when the market crashed we had to sell it (at a loss). Later bought another house that we couldn't afford. Sold that one after 6 years and H walked out 6 months later.
The love of money, big houses, new cars wasn't me. As lean as I'm living now it's still better than juggling bills to pay for a lifestyle we couldn't afford.
