1st Anniversary of Limbo, Indecisive WAH (part 2)

[Pommy99]

Hi peeps I really need some advice. This whole C-19 stuff is causing a compete headf***. H is now alone in his rental, has been unable to travel to the city for work, and is obviously missing his other life. He came round on Sunday (Mother’s Day) and I invited him in because it was an amazing spring day and the house and garden looked so cool, and I just wanted him to remember what we built together. He asked me if I’d like to go cycling with him later that day. I said yes on the spur of the moment but was not really comfortable about it so declined later in the day. He asked how I was and I said all good . He said he was very up and down and was questioning (again) what he thinks he’s looking for, had been thinking about what’s important to him, and reflecting a lot, especially given the global crisis now. I just nodded and said it’s certainly a time for reflection. Since then he’s been calling, texting, asking me to go cycling, suggesting we have a bbq here tomorrow for daughters birthday, in fact asked if he could work from here tomorrow so we could all spend the day together. He’s called me to ask my opinion about a job offer

My anxiety is going through the roof. We are now in lockdown and there are just the 4 of us, albeit split over 2 houses a couple of miles apart. I get that he’s lonely and I don’t know whether to rebuff his efforts at spending time together because I don’t know his motives. I feel like it’s convenient for him to come here and make nice coffee, have a nice sunny spot to work jn, enjoy the garden etc. But because we are all in isolation should we just do what we can to support each other and be there ? I mean, he’s not going to die being in a house on his own, that was his choice.

What do I do? I’m being cold towards him today- not answered his two phone calls and politely declining the bike ride in reply to his text .