She did not come over this morning but continued to text a lot. "I'm coming over this morning to help or you can bring her to me." No response from me. Then, "You can't keep our D from me." Then, "I'm going to call a lawyer to tell them that I'm an essential employee (during Corona scare...she's a pediatric nurse) and you won't help me." Then, "you are using our D to get back at me, you should be ashamed."
I'm scheduled to have my D Mon-Thur, so no way she actually thinks I'm keeping our D from her. So I finally said, "please respect my boundaries and you will get our D on Thursday."
Also, one more thing from last night, my W got so defensive and angry after I said I do not accept her being in contact with the OM, therefore, I didn't want her there (our house) and I didn't want her help. She exploded and yelled, swore, threatened to punch me in my face, all while being 2 ft away from my daughter. After she left, within 10 minutes called and texted 20+ times, over and over. Once even stating "I worried for our D safety." Really!!!! You just flipped out and threatened me and I remained fairly calm.
Then this morning, saying "that is was sad that I'm doing this to our D." Again, really!!! You had an A for over a year!!! What I did to our D? Wow.
I was naive and foolish to think she was changing. She was cake eating and probably scared over finances due to losing work hours as result of this health scare. She even asked me for $ the other day if she gets stuck. And don't worry, I deflected that one by saying the govt is working on a financial package to help.
I'm going to sit down and write my boundaries up to email her (if you guys agree it's a good idea). I will post them on here first.
You guys were, right. She's nowhere ready but I think with her frantic calls, emails, telling me she's moving into the basement, all proves she is thinking about working it out but I want to be clear what she needs to do first before that happens. Remorse, Regret, end contact with the OM, transparency, MC and IC.
