Believe6, (((hug))) it was so difficult at beginning ...
I received the speech of - I love you but I'm not in love w/you back in Sep. 2014. I was hit by this out of blue. I thought our marriage was good, life is sweet. But I did not realize things were changing in his mind for 18-24 months after my grandmother passed away by spring of 2012.
Husband did not move out of our apartment till May 2015. I understand your feeling currently. There was time I could not eat, nor sleep, he would come home at middle of night, acting weird, secretly as a teenager. He would blame me for everything and said he made a huge mistake that we were married. literally he really 'hates me'. He had both EA and PA with very young ladies. He was drinking and spending money like crazy.
Threatened me that he will divorced me, begging me to set him free (laugh)
I return to church and I started to read a lot of articles of midlife crisis by summer 2015, later I found this forum, this is a treasure box that you could find so many valuable information and skills. I'm grateful for the help from this forum.
You could love him from distance, detach and start to live the life your own. He would be interesting of what you are doing and how you will handle things, the only thing he cares about is himself. 'you did not break him thus you can not fix him'.
He has to spend great deal of time in finding the 'cure' of his childhood issue.
Don't have to tell other people and family of both sides of how he's acting, come here, vent !
By 2016, I became volunteer and enrolled language class. 2017 He started coming home every weekend. Warming up slowly...
Please take care, pray that God Reigns !!
me 46 / husband 44 married 2006, no kids BD Sep.2014 Moved out May.2015
