It’s going fairly well. On lock-down due to COVID-19 and been working around the house and playing golf with my friends. My stitch moved out and is living in another town. Lol. Probably best as she can continue to hide from her demons. We talk and mostly cordial. I see no need in being ugly. I’ve realized in time she will suffer the greatest among us. She talks as if she has some remorse but she is still confused as to where her life will go from here. We have been splitting custody of our 14 year old using the 4-3 rotation.
She text me a lot when she has our son and then never really text much when I have him. I haven’t pursued her and only respond when she contacts me. Not sure I’d ever take her back after what she has done. I wouldn’t never trust her again and I found out way to much information in the process.
Papers will go to the judge to sign on March 31st. Not sure about the state of our country and whether the judge will be able to sign it that day. I’m moving forward and focused on trying to be positive and happy. Most I come into contact in my home town know my situation and are very genuine in their concern for me and how I’m doing. Not really concerned about dating or pursuing other women and not sure I could ever trust again at the present moment. It will definitely be a huge change in becoming single at 41.
As for being alone, it has gotten a lot better. I visit my son at times when he is with her. I’ve been in her new home and we are very cordial. She has pictures up of me which is very confusing and weird. I’ve just come to realize that she is bat [censored] crazy!!!!!!
The future looks bright and I have been very positive. Boy I am in a better place than I was during that 9 month span I was trying to save this marriage. Sure wish I would have taken LH’s advice and just walked away. I’ve realized that when something like this happens and they have no immediate remorse for what they have done the situation really becomes hopeless. Your only option is to walk away and start over. Once all parties have healed and it takes time then there may be a chance for new love to be born again. As time goes by I slowly realize that I will be happier with someone else or by myself. Trying to fight doesn’t work if the cheating spouse has no remorse. I know this sounds easier said than done but it is truth. I cherish all you guys for being there in my time of need. Having folks to talk to really helped keep my sanity and keep me from ruining my life by harming the OM.
