Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you and hope that the sunny is shining for you today.
Any chance of you getting someone to watch your S while you and H go out to talk? I would do it away from home as that is too comfortable for him and too easy for the emotions to escalate.
Perhaps a dinner for two somewhere where you can talk but not be overheard by the next table. I know there are plenty of places to fit that bill where you are.
It would be interesting to see if your H would agree to the 5 minute exercise. The one where you talk for 5 minutes and lay it all on the table and he can't interupt or defend. Then he does the same and you can't say anything while he talks. Keep doing it until it is all out there.
Man, you could tell him that you love him and want to help him work through the feelings he has been having about not being happy with anything, you could tell him you like to see him get some help to curb his drinking (he obviously doesn't acknowledge the level to which he drinks) because you want him around forever, you can tell him that S4 loves him and you want your family together and happy, not just together...
You can do this objectively and without any pleading - and you are more likely to be successful when you do it in public verses private.
Just my thoughts - if he truly wants to talk, then this kind of talk should be first. I told my H that I deserved that we try everything first - and we haven't done anything yet...but let time and trust and actions work for us.
I hope you have a great day! Praying for you!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
