My W came by after she got out of work and we played with my D. After so talk, I finally said, "what I said before is still true: you need to end contact with the OM and begin MC before anything else happens. She got angry/agitated, so I said, "have you ended contact?" which she replied, "no, I told you I still talk to him." So I said then "Then I don't want you here."She immediately talked about tomorrow and working from my house. I said, "I can't accept you continuing an affair and have you here working." She got so mad.
I then said, "I am not bailing you out to watch our D on your scheduled day's." She basically told me she has to work so I have to. She said, "What are you going to leave your daughter out in the cold." I told her "It's not my problem to figure out." She said she got so mad she could punch me. She started yelling about divorce, and how we should just do it.
I will be honest, I chased a little bit, saying you treat me this way and I am supposed to bail you out. That she hurt me s bad and this is how you treat me? I asked her to leave and bever come back.
I am struggling with what to do next. Go dark? How can I not bail her out and watch my D when she has work (she is a nurse and the Corona scare makes her work...sometimes at home, sometimes in the office)?
She is seeing or talking to the OM. She hasn't processed or really apologized. I need to be done. I need to 180 and detach but it so hard.
