I need some advice on how to handle a situation with H - I am not asking for legal advice. I'm trying to balance the protecting myself and not being seen as a total B*tCH which would prevent recon.
Hi KitCat,
I'll delve into details later, but I'll remind you that you don't control how your ex "sees" you. Just think back to all you did to help him with his paperwork vs. his perception of what you did! You only control who you actually are. As long as you demand through your attorney only what they believe the courts would award you as fair, you're doing nothing wrong that should prevent reconciliation, and note being more financially stable could make you more desirable to him and others in the future.
CW - thanks and I see your point.
He is trying to close on a house next week and needs the funds to do so.
We haven't divided everything up and giving him anything NOW may not guarantee he will be generous later for sure. Especially for a man who has been completely selfish for several weeks now.
I could screw up his house buying plans...
This makes me anxious--- the spew of texts I would get if this happens. I know I should not fear his anger but lets face it. I still love this man. I still want the best for him. And, if I love him I let him go right?
