Just spoke to W for a short while (before she headed of to the cabin for the night...)
Earlier she asked how I felt and I said I feel good.
Exchanges some corona dialogue and right before she was leaving I asked how do YOU feel?

She looked really happy in her face and let off a big sigh.
When she started speaking she was on the verge of crying and said last week was really tough.
So I asked why.
W - I thing I havnt let myself mourn/plain/grieve as much as you have. One needs to do that, and it is very heavy.
Me - Yes it is. I understand it is tough.
W - Saw some pictures, read some old things. Really tough.
Quiet for a long time.
Me - Don't know what to say.
W - I get that.
Some more words, then good night.

Feels like I shouldnt have asked her how she feels.. Sure didnt help me.
What is your take on this?


Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021