I need some advice on how to handle a situation with H - I am not asking for legal advice. I'm trying to balance the protecting myself and not being seen as a total B*tCH which would prevent recon.
Now - I am very aware that H is completely SELFISH. Contact is about him and his needs. He has not contacted to find out anything about me, does the puppy need anything, am I handling the puppy okay, did I need anything, how are handling the virus issue and my job? He has not shown a single bit of interest in ME.
As for the license that he contacted non-stop over - its been 2 days and he still hasn't picked it up.
I have a financial restraining order on our accounts. He was informed last Wednesday and is aware I filed for Legal S at the same time.
The plan was to take our emergency fund and pay off my vehicle and his. He of course said "well now I can't pay off your vehicle, congrats"... to then trying to be smooth and how he can't move out if he can't get funds for this house and he is not out to screw me over, blah blah blah. The conversation last Thursday AM was that I would see what could be done with Atty.
SO - I have verbal/written consent from Atty that we can indeed pay off our vehicles (marital assets) with marital money if we agree. I could also release funds for him to buy house but she suggested I make him get those funds outside marital assets.
He is texting today asking if the order was lifted --- of course the answer is NO because courts are closed.
BUT do I tell him 1) I have authorization for him to pay off vehicles AND then see if he steps up and does that. I could delay on what he is truly asking by saying I don't know about that yet.
I imagine when its just okay to pay off the vehicles but his funds are still frozen he will just say F that and go back to being dark... OR do I give him the chance to show me he will pay off the vehicles??? That would be doing something less selfish.
OR - do I just tell him courts are closed????
I really want a chance at recon - I can't have him adding this to the pile of his resentments of me.
Either way I know I will be okay. The sun will rise tomorrow. I'm working on being the most attractive me I can be and letting him go for now.
