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[CanBird]

I'm sorry you are going through this. It must be so hard with him hiding out from your D and connecting with ow/gf. My H is living at home and swears he is no longer in contact with the ow which I believe because for a long time I was checking everything and I have a tracker on his phone. I know. I am not supposed to. We are supposed to detach. I get it. It's hard. Especially when they are home. But I have stopped checking things. I still find myself glancing at his phone, tablet or computer if I am walking by or he is in bed. We still sleep in the same bed although mostly on the edges.

I am not sure how we are all navigating this when we are all "sheltering in place." We are still able to go take walks, hike and shop when necessary. I will admit, I am enjoying my coctails at night. It is helping with the stress. Better than the alternative.

We have to keep working on ourselves. When your H is "reading" or helping with D, are you able to do a hobby you love? Read a book, listen to a podcast, sit outside? Something for you? We should commit to that. Sending good vibes.

Thanks B6. Sending good vibes right back at you Yes, we DO have to keep working on ourselves. GAL has certainly took a turn with this stay at home order. But hey, I'll make a better effort to do more for me & D3. Live as if he's gone. Thank goodness we have a backyard with pool we can enjoy. I love plants, did somevwork there yesterday.

Whatever 00 does is his journey. Perhaps if I imagine he's just connecting with a 'sponcer' it won't hurt as much. Roommate! Remind myself of that! We've had separate sleeping arrangements for a while, mostly after BD. I know the sleeping on the edge bit. I always wanted to reach out for a hand a toe anything! Well, at least your in the same bed & still married. But yes, detaching is key.