I like the new attitude! I prefer you be a little petty and rude, rather than being on the hook with every word and deed from him. We generally try to tell LBSs to avoid pettiness and rudeness, but if you can't remain neutral I'd rather you fall on that side rather than be overly accommodating.
So A+ grade from me over the weekend! I think you can evolve from being petty and rude to more neutral as you get better at this.
Also, WASs always accuse their WAS of being petty and rude once we start getting good at detachment. It is a new normal that they struggle with. Remember, he wants you hanging on for dear life so that he has plan B. Waywards especially want their cake and eat it too. Sandi is clear that tough love is necessary for waywards. Sometimes that requires a bit of rudeness. Maybe bluntness is another word for it.
Those words give me strength. Trust me I felt terribly guilty all weekend.
Why???
Because I'm a decent person. I don't want to show ill will to anyone. Because of the field I am in its important for me to be accommodating to the needs of others and listen to their concerns as what I work with cannot speak for itself. There are a number of clients that I go above and beyond to advocate for the suffering of those that cannot speak for themselves. Calling after hours. Going in on my only day off. I have so many clients that love me and I love the fact that I have been associated with this business over 30yr.
I am taking soooo much pride that in the last 2 weeks I have NOT initiated any contact. I'm not always happy that I respond to his contact --- I have ignored some. When he gets me on the phone I am ALWAYS the one to end the call. And, 50% of what he contacts me about is 100% unnecessary.
The weight loss is helping my self esteem AND though he won't say a word about it ---- H has to notice right?? How could he not when clothes are hanging on me... and my cute sexy scrubs are hugging all the right places and not appearing to be stretched too tight??? :-)
Its been radio silence for some time now. H hasn't been to the house in 5 days now - the longest he has been gone. I have no idea where he is and I'm not the least bit interested in asking.
I'm realzing HOW much he isn't checking in on me OR this puppy he seems to think he is leaving the house with at some point.
No ISSUES... I got it.. I'm not waiting on you to fix the fence, the drywall, etc. Don't need to bother you for anything.
