Quote: My mother had a cook out at her house, which she called at about noon to invite us too. H asked me if I was going, since it was such short notice? I said yes and I then said does it surprise you...our famiy is like that or should I say our mom.
So as we're coming back from mini-golf H is all on edge..yelled at me to get going through a stop light that had just turned yellow!
Cathy - do you think it's possible HE had plans for the rest of Mother's Day with you? That maybe he was disappointed that you were going to your family without asking him first if he had other plans for the two of you? Maybe reaching here, but he seems to have a real issue with you not showing your love for him (yes, I know it's carzy) - so if he DID have some other ideas for how the two of you (or three of you) were going to spend the rest of the day, maybe you blew them up?
For instance - just imagine that maybe he had thought to take you out for dinner for Mother's Day. He's feeling kind of good about himself, has done some nice things for you , etc. Then you suddenly come up with this change of plans without consulting him. So now he feels left out of the decision making, unimportant, etc. So he gets irritable, goes out and drinks.
What would it hurt if you told him "gee, honey, I really appreciated the things you did for me yesterday. I just realized that it may have been totally insensitive of me to make those sudden plans with my mom, when you might have had some plans of your own for us. I'm terribly sorry if that was the case, I wouldn't want you to feel unappreciated when I was actually thinking how sweet it was of you"
