I read your postings of yesterday and shook my head. DBing is not about playing games, being spiteful, petty and/or childish in how any of us should be handling our situations. It's about helping you learn to cope, find yourself and even, help you w/patience and compassion.
KC, even though you felt empowered w/what you said, it came across as spiteful and petty. Woman, don't lower yourself to his level of childish play. You may not realize it, but you are the adult in this situation right now. You can't get respect from someone saying what you did. If you want respect, show him that you can rise above his nasty self and do the right thing. He has told you over and over again how things came down to his last divorce and you are falling right into the same rabbit hole of his xw. Look, you are falling right into his plan of why he's justifying his leaving you and the relationship. You don't want that. You want him to see you as a strong, wise, independent woman who can handle anything at any time.
So, I'm asking you to think before you post something to him. If you had misplaced your license, you would have been in a panic as well since most of the the MVA's are closing indefinitely and you wouldn't have been able to get a new license until they opened up again.
In this time of world crisis, we all need to step back just a wee bit and show a bit more patience and compassion for our fellow man. Yes, I know he's lied and cheated, but that's on him, not you. There are far more important issues that need to be focused on today and in the near future, i.e., this virus can take out anyone from all walks of life and it's too late when someone we know and love could be taken from us. So, KC, I'm asking you to please, please be the adult in your situation and do the very best you can to hold your head up high and if and when you do communicate w/your h, that you be the adult in the conversation. Do not lower yourself to his level because that's what he wants, i.e., to justify what he's doing...don't give him that justification.
Stay safe and above all else healthy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
