Doing my thing and hope for the best

[may22]

Hi Wooba,

Just checking in. How are things going? I remember you saying your kids were out of school a few weeks back and I was like OMG HOW is she handling it? And now my kids are home for at least a month, maybe more... so incredible how quickly things are changing.

Discussing your camping trip in April in the same conversation as D finances? Wow.

So, I don't see things moving anywhere anytime soon. He is stalling, exactly like what I anticipated. He wanted to scare me with D talk, money talk, etc.....use my fears to manipulate me...I'm sorry, it no longer works on me. so finally the hate comes out. all the blame is placed on me.

You seeing this so clearly is great. I'm sure it doesn't bother you as much as it used to now that you can see it. Do you feel like it still bothers you somewhat? Or are you kind of observing his behavior thinking WOW and it doesn't impact you emotionally at all?

My landlord later replied to me and said that they are willing to extend the lease. I'm both disappointed and relieved to hear this news. Once I sign another year, it's as if I'm agreeing to this status quo of sh*t for another year. But selling everything, packing, looking for another place, and moving all within 3 months....along with everything that's happening right now is also too much for me to handle. I want to draw my line with H clearly and just move forward with D. But I think the stress from the timing will crush me.

I don't think you need to worry about it feeling like you're agreeing to put up with his garbage for another year. You're making the best decision for you given everything that is happening. Are there other ways you can set up and enforce boundaries with your H that don't involve moving?

Hope you're hanging in there!!