You fully have the right to prevent him from taking your son on an airplane. Honestly, the fact that he thinks this is a good idea just shows what absymal judgment he has right now. I mean if he could drive somewhere that would be one thing, but I think there's a real risk of domestic travel restrictions going into place and they could be stuck. This is all changing so quickly.
Anyway. If you don't want him to take your S on a plane right now, don't let him. So what if he throws a temper tantrum? You don't want to give in on things that are important to you just so he doesn't paint you as a monster. You aren't a monster. Don't let him pressure you into acting all cool and sure, whatever, go camping! on the outside and on the inside be slowly dying.
Originally Posted by oceangrl
I always feel some level of guilt when I disagree with him because I am the bad guy who runs all his plans. So my old me wanting to prove: LOOK HOW GREAT I AM wants to rise her head. But instead I am learning to honor what I need.
I think this is terrific, you seeing this, and wanting to honor your own needs and be true to yourself. Keep repeating it to yourself. You ARE great. If he needs to paint you as the bad guy because he isn't mature enough to deal with reality... that is on him, not you.
HUGS. I know this is a crazy, crazy time.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
