how is initiating relationship talks and talks about divorce 180's?
180's is changing how you react to situations, changing how you handle things. It is doing something differently. Making situations so you can have a chance to validate or "show" a different way you would discuss it aren't 189's. Read up on them a little more, I know there are great resources right on the boards for that
It's a 180 because bringing up that topic is not something I would normally do. She would expect me to just sit and wait for her to bring it up. She would expect me to be passive. There was no suggestion about discussing the relationship. Just getting her thoughts on things regarding the divorce and the current step it is in.
I often times have thought that Michele and the coaches may have some very different thoughts on DBing than many on the boards seem to. I definitely know from DR that 180s are more than just reactions.
