Husband Living a Double Life

[oceangrl]

So I told my husband that I don't want a divorce right now and that I was lashing out because I am hurt and angry. He said ok and we chatted a bit and did not talk about the R again. So now what? Do I use the LRT? GAL? What are my next steps moving forward.

I'm still on the fence about a divorce but I reacted out of my anger. I really need time to think about it. As far as I know, he still wants a divorce. I put the ball in his court for now.

Thanks

My advice would be to definitely work on detaching, that way however this ends up your emotions won't be so dependent on how he feels about you.

GAL is still huge. Your goal of working on you hasn't changed. Connect with yourself and support yourself. This is my daily task as well. When I find myself thinking too much about him or the situation, I know I have to shift the power back and work on myself.

Validation is also important, in fact, Cadet's welcome thread is good to go over again and again.

As far as LRT, I will let veterans chime in on that one.