To initiate a conversation about how she sees us splitting up our assets. It doesn't have to be about all of our assets, it could be just about one item. And I need to listen to what she says, and validate.
And possibly to initiate a conversation (or just make a statement) about her (I suppose I could phrase it as both of us) being open to criticism or suggestions on how we do things. With an emphasis on - I want to grow as a person, I want her to grow, I want us to grow as parents, and people, and to do that we have to be able to accept and even seek new input/data to help us do that. Since we're going to be in each other's lives (marriage or not) for a long time, it's something that would be beneficial to us, and our daughter.
I'm not much of a talker, and definitely don't usually initiate conversations about major or hot-button topics, so it would be an 180 and not something she'd expect from me.
The 2nd thing would be much more difficult for me as it seems to my mind like a part of a larger conversation rather than something to initiate on its own. The first I think I can do. I'm just trying to think of items we might disagree on, or that will take some thought on her part. Get something I can validate and not just a quick, "oh you can have that."
