I'm not a parenting expert by any means, but the way you describe him in the post above is more about the doc's parenting than the little boy's need to "grow a pair". It sounds to me like SHE has VERY high standards and he is afraid to not meet those as it may disappoint her. I would be interested to know how she handled being disappointed by him. Not at all saying she is a bad parent, mind you...just saying maybe it isn't all him.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids