She doesn't handle things the way I would sometimes and I do find myself biting my tongue as well. On the flip side I try to remember that I am sure she wants to correct my girls at times as well. That I don't handle things like she would.
My oldest can be bossy at times and there is a power struggle that occurs between the Docs son and her. She is 10 and is used to being the ring leader especially with my youngest. Her son is the only child so he used to doing what he wants and doesn't just fall in line with my 10 yr old. My 8 yr old is still not overly mature either so I do understand part of it.
He is a very smart little boy, just soft and doughy. No male role model in his life so the things he does to get approval or attention from the ladies in his life is all centered around what they approve of. Which is reading books, practicing his Spanish and reciting bible verses. Also propping him up on his ipad so they get quiet time. He is 8 and just played kick ball for the first time 2 days ago in the street with the neighborhood kids.
Unfortunately he just hasn't been allowed to be a boy. Yes, the Doc is very aware and I know that is one of her draws towards me. She is looking for someone to be a male role model for her son. He is just not to the point yet to where he looks up to anyone other than the 4 women in his life and seeking their approval.
My girls are doing well, we are not perfect social distancers. We went to this drive through animal park on Tuesday, have played outside with the neighbors, got some ice cream, shaved ice, and have been to the park several times. It has been a really crappy week though with it raining every day. My back yard is like a mud bog. They also have their technology, ipads, phones, etc. so they can talk to their friends
No more mention of their concerns about me getting married. They are acting like normal. We never did get them into therapy after our D as they signs of them struggling were not apparent. They do have friends that have went through D as well so they are familiar although they refer to it as mommy and daddy broke up. When they asked the other night I just told them that mommy and daddy couldn't be happy together. They are still too young for the complete truth which, after my period of self reflection, would also include the role that I played as well.
I think you can get away with "not my kid" until you are all living under one roof and realizing that your soon to be wife will not always be around. I think living together kind of forces that on you so obviously you both need to communicate in order to provide a unified front.
We are going over to the Docs house tonight as she wants to make cupcakes with the girls. Tomorrow she plans on going out to her ranch and the girls and I could certainly go with her but since they have been with her son all week my thought is that it might be good if everyone had a break.
The reason why I ended up watching her son was because I am off on vacation all week and thought it would save her money and additionally she is helping my oldest with some medical issues (nothing serious) and she does not charge me for anything she has done. So I guess in a way we have been some horse trading of services
