I told the Doc last Sunday he was a p$ssy. That didn't go over to well although she understood what I was trying to say. I apologized and told her it was poor word choice. It did come out wrong and I felt bad although a few days ago she told him to grow a pair.
Sounds like she's aware of the issue and agrees. It's tough when you're around other people's kids, especially in a position of authority / and for lack of a better word - leadership.
Tough I think for both the kids and the adults. I presume that the kids find themselves on a shifting ground of expectations and rules and the adults have some difficulty with there being another voice and set of attitudes that may be inconsistent with how they've been operating for yours. I suppose kind of like when a new boss comes in but you still have the same foreman. Who is actually in charge?
I'm trying to deal with this by saying "not my kid" which is easier with teens and up. And even so, find myself biting my tongue on a fairly regular basis. The issues get dealt with. Not necessarily in the way I would have done it. And the kids are learning - albeit somewhat slowly that they can't play us off against each other and that "Mom" is still firmly in charge. Younger kids are a lot harder.
How are your girls doing otherwise? Are they seeing anyone to talk things through with? Do they have friends who've gone through divorce and are thriving? This social distancing must be tough on them.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
