I get that you explained what you meant and I know you didn’t mean it from a bad place. My point was that is her kid and if you say stuff like that it is not going to be well-received, just like if someone said it to you about your kids. Our defenses immediately go up when someone disses our kid, even if they were trying to be helpful.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids