Midlife wife crisis14

[Wolfman]

Haven’t posted in a little while on my thread. I hope everyone is safe and healthy!!!

I am disappointed in myself, I backslid on DB principles. I kinda got blindsided. My ex called me and my first mistake was I picked up the phone. She started off with what time I was picking up the kids. Then went into that I don’t care about her and the kids. That I haven’t texted her to see if she is ok and if the kids are ok. To check to see if they have food and water. That I don’t care about them. I told her I have been texting both kids everyday (the days I don’t have them) to see how they are and if they are ok. She said no I haven’t. I should of just got off the phone tight then and there. But I responded I have absolutely been texting the kids. She said it shows what kind of person I am but not checking up on them. That her own dad calls her a couple of times a day to see how they are. I said I am sorry you feel that way but do you remember we are not married anymore? She said instead of texting her or a soling to see is they are I contacted her that she had to pay the electric bill.

Quick background on that, when I lived there we had balance budgeting, when she took my name off they did a final reading and she owed a lot of money, they tried to automatic deduct it from her checking like they always did but she didn’t have enough money to cover. So I got a notice there was insufficient funds and I got the letter at my new address. I told her a week ago about it, I went to check 2 days ago and she still didn’t pay it. So I text her to remind her to pay that bill.

So she was mad that I only contacted her about the money she owes. And she said I am so selfish that I wanted the kids at my house on the day I am suppose to have them. I said my house is very clean and I am not taking them anywhere. I said why are you so angry? You got everything you wanted, a divorce the home. She cut me off when I said home. She said, Home!!!? I bought you out and a real man would have just left the home to the woman!! Then she started to bring up the past and how bad I was. Blah blah blah. At that point I had, had enough and told her this conversation is over and hung up.

Couple of mistakes on my part: 1. Answering the phone. 2. As soon as she got off the kids should of hung up. 3. I let it go way too long.

What was the point of that? Does she not realize we are not married? I am worried for my kids. I text them all the time to see how they are. I use to text her to see how the kids were. I stopped that a while ago. Our communication is very limited. I have gone dark as much as I could with someone who shares kids. Just a guess I feel like she is realizing she is losing me as her safety net. Or maybe she got into an argument with her BF. I don’t know but there was so much anger in her voice. I am so confused why this happened? We have been very cordial and interactions have been limited. Why now? Why this explosion on me??? Besides my mistakes any insight would be great. Even though she has done this to our family and herself, I honestly feel bad for her. I really don’t think she understood what divorce was going to be. Financial hardship, having to do this on her own, dealing with kids alone, dating. Thanks everyone, hope everyone is well.