To show that I do not hate him despite what he's done. I don't want to punish him or get revenge, I just want to move on and get away from him. I admit that I do get a little hung up on The Truth, because how do you have even a business-like relationship with someone whose sense of reality is so corrupted by self-deceit, and who projects that onto you to control the situation and f*ck with your own sense of reality?
scout, this resonates so much with me. I too am trying to find love and compassion despite everything....and let go of any resentment, hate and other negative feelings I have for my H. But the truth part eats at me. His version of reality vs mine. His denial of HIS contribution to the failure of our M.
So I know I need to continue working on that part about myself...like Ownit and unchien said...be the gray rock, accepting that H does not want to hear me.
You cannot wake someone who's pretending to be asleep.....
