Time to file? (Thanks BenB - part 2)

[Mumin]

BIG Thanks for answers AS! It sure sounds logical. I really like the marathon analogy. Good to be reminded of it.
Also VERY good description of how this is my time to improve. Maybe she will see it. Maybe she wont.
Think I am doing real good at not being needy though.

I have gotten quite far (compared to earlier) on detaching but now I am not sure how to actively work on this. Any tips?