Hi Ballast,
What I like most about your post is that you have taken what you learned post BD and applied it in a way that is most comfortable for you and most in alignment with who you are. You are communicating honestly and directly and setting a boundary that you are comfortable with. I'm happy for you!
-B.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver