She obviously isnt home and I sort of hope she will be commenting on it tomorrow. So I can NOT answer.
Try to detach to the point where you don't care whether she says anything or not.
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Not sure what my next DB move is now. She sleeps in the cabin now... Any points on my next move? Ovr, Steve, LH, AS, R2C, Ben etc?
No move is the best move. LBS's always feel like they need to do something, they are grasping to establish control of their life again. But it leads the LBS to do hasty things they regret later. Just relax, take a deep breath, remind yourself that this is a marathon and not a sprint.
I've run a marathon (literally, as well as the post-BD marathon). A marathon isn't 26 miles of full speed sprinting. It is all about settling into a relaxed pace. It's about finding that peaceful zen spot in your mind while you're churning out these thousands of repetitive, boring, eventually painful steps. It's very much a case of mind over matter, because if you think too much about it your mind starts listing off all the pain and discomfort you're going through and telling you to stop to make it go away. If you can put your mind at peace then you focus on something other than the pain and discomfort and you put yourself on autopilot. You think pleasant thoughts, you let your mind drift to other places. Then just when you become content with your pace and disposition and forget about the destination, there it is. This is very much what BD'ing is. Work on your 180's until they become familiar patterns. Quit forcing something to happen with your marriage or divorce and just settle into life. The finish line will present itself in due time and when it does you'll know what to do.
