Just Keep Swimming: Detaching, LRT 2

[Pommy99]

OG it’s so hard to ignore the breadcrumbs, but like me, you seem to be in a place where you recognise that they are insignificant, I’m sorry to say. Everything you say really resonates. My H refused to go to MC last year (we’d tried about 2 years ago and it was a disaster -back then it was him who took us). I didn’t push the agenda last year as I’d lost faith in the process. But I tried other marriage programs and he said he would join me in them but never did. I tried to explain that in mature relationships actions drive feeling etc but his efforts were always half hearted. I feel your pain of limbo, the frustration of their inaction (which is an action in itself). Remember he is undecided, else he would have left, he’s still trying to figure it out. You are being really strong, it may be difficult to get out an GAL at this time but you can still GAL at home, like you are doing, help him to believe that you can function without him, and are capable of making your own choices. You will get through this, you are stronger than you realise.

Do you think MC is working right now? Did he want to go in the first place? How would you feel if you said that you didn’t feel that MC was beneficial right now because you need some time to figure out what your goals and vision are? How would he react if his W suddenly indicated uncertainty?

Sending big hugs your way (via satellite seeing as all flights banned! ) .