Thank you all for the feedback. And the laugh mtb. I hit my limit with Ws s*** today. Joejoe I couldnt stand by and allow it...a flaw of mine or strength, I dont know. LH and AS, the feedbacks always appreciated. I confronted W while I was working. It went about as expected but the thing is, I didnt care about the outcome. What started it was minor. She made a snide remark in a disrespectful tone in front of both kids.
Where im disappointed in myself is that I reacted in anger and not loving detachment. I told her that the disrespect stops right here. Im tired of it. I told her im not saying this out of control but to protect me. If she doesnt stop, then I will stop talking to her entirely.
As expected it flipped on me, it was my fault she said things the way she did. I validated then challenged this. I explained that I deserve to be treated better. Prob a bad move as it seems like pursuit and control. She invalidated me, flipped it on me and she started an R chat that we both quickly got out of. Said she is trying to let go of all the anger and is discontent. I validated and told her I have a store to go to and left. As I said in a earlier post, if one is not content yet does nothing about it, then nothing will happen. I want to tell her this.
Whats sad is Im sitting here knowing she'll passive aggressively get me back for bringing this up. She completely played like the victim and acted like she could do no wrong. My anger was unnecessary, I agree to that and I know I dont control her. I also know its unacceptable for the kids to see her actions against me. All she did was push me further towards D. It may be what she wants. It may be what we both want. This will be a long quarantine.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated