[quote=Steve85]The opposite of NGS is NOT being a jerk. You need to read No More Mr. Nice Guy stat!
------Is there a thread on this forum? I found some stuff online but it's vague-----
QUOTE Filing to take back control? Really? Here is the thing. She wants D. You want to R. How does filing NOT give her control since it is what she wants? I am all for LBSs filing for D when the circumstances and time is right. Filing to wake her up IS NOT the circumstance nor time.
-----My W has said once she wants a D but since then it's, "I'm not sure if I do" or "I don't want that pressure" etc. Honestly, I don't know if she does but if I bring it up she doesn't want to talk about it....cake and eating it too.
Why are you bringing it up? A basic rule of DBing: don't start R talks.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
You are right Steve. I guess I thought talking about D wasn't considered R talk.
I feel like I make steps forward and then fall back. Every time I know she's with the OM I have a hard time not trying to fix her. I know I can't but I find myself thinking I should. That's my hardest part.
You are right Steve. I guess I thought talking about D wasn't considered R talk.
I feel like I make steps forward and then fall back. Every time I know she's with the OM I have a hard time not trying to fix her. I know I can't but I find myself thinking I should. That's my hardest part.
Yep, that is because men are wired to be fixers. If there was something wrong with your car, you'd want to fix it.
However, you can't fix her, but you know who you can fix? YOU! Get the book No More Mr. Nice Guy, read it. I assume you are reading DR. When I was in the thick of my sitch I was reading 3-4 self-improvement or anti-D relationship books per month.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
