Affair Fog-LRT

[MrBrside]

I definitely have NGS! It is totally me. So what do I do? Be a jerk?

Thats not what its about at all - Its a good book and worth a read.

Also, I want to file to wake her up, give her 90-180!days before it's finalized, bed if she doesn't wake up, screw her. I can't wait forever. I can't go a day without talking to her...usually about my daughter

Very irrational and emotional reply - You still dont grasp that she needs to work on herself - but you need to work on you. The last thing you want to do in this state of mind is file. Even if she "wakes up" it wont be all happy families.

but things always seem to come up about us. It's impossible that it doesn't.

YOU can control this - You end the conversation.

She knows she can come back so she is going to play this game forever. I can't do that.

Well this is where YOU need to be strong and stop allowing her to play a game. You say you cant allow her to do this - Well don't - But do it without having a motive - Stop the contact becuase you want to stop the game playing - not "oh i'll file and it make make her come back" - You need to grasp that this will just happen again - she doesnt respect you.

A lot of people have suggested to file to wake her up.

And if it doesnt - you look weak - Unless you are going to be strong on this, you will come across as weak ... Bye bye even more respect. If you can't enforce no contact, the chances of divorcing are less - zero - as its not what you want. You want her back, but you are happy to accept your WW back - still WW - which wont end well..

If you havent read Sandy's posts on this - Do so - I would take her expereince and the advice of people here ( all been there ) over "A lot of people" any day of the week.

Your WW has a lot of work to do - but you will take her back any way you can get her.. You don't need to be a jerk - you do need to gain her respect and i suspect a bit of self respect