The opposite of NGS is NOT being a jerk. You need to read No More Mr. Nice Guy stat!

NGS isn't just being nice. It is being nice to manipulate people to get what you want out of them. If you think about it, that isn't nice at all!

Filing to wake her up will backfire. If you file before YOU are ready to be D'd you will end up D'd, and still have a lot of emotional baggage to work through, including the feeling of not being patient enough.

Filing to take back control? Really? Here is the thing. She wants D. You want to R. How does filing NOT give her control since it is what she wants? I am all for LBSs filing for D when the circumstances and time is right. Filing to wake her up IS NOT the circumstance nor time.

So what good can come from not doing it? See my first paragraph about filing above. What bad thing can come from filing? Also see my first paragraph for filing above.

Principle: Only file for D when you are ready to be D'd. Because that is the likely outcome. Filing for D to "wake her up" will not work the vast majority of time. And then you will regret filing.

When you can file and not care how she reacts to it.....then that was the right time. Not until then.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018