Should I ask for counseling one last time before I tell her I want to D and set up mediation?
Well....
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She treats and treated me badly, withheld affection and intimacy often, makes fun of my interests, didnt spend time doing things together....the list goes on. I ask myself often now...why would I want her back?
Now I found out, she is contacting some friends telling them lies about me. For example, she told them Im in a massive panic over being work at home now. Im happy to be at home and Corona gives me no fear. This is something shes done for awhile...she makes up how I feel instead of asking me, then tells others her assumption and is validated for putting up with so much. She told someone that she is "doing alright but is still unhappy". Well of course!??! Youve done nothing but avoid the situation yet you think it would change or that I would crawl back to you?
Sounds like you answered your own question. But in case you don't see it, no do not ask for counseling. If SHE approaches YOU about possible recon then one of your stipulations should be that SHE gets counseling. The above issues are serious and she needs help with that. After some number of months of IC THEN the two of you could consider MC.
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For the time being...how do I set a boundary when she makes a disrespectful face? She does it often, as an example, I mispronounced a word which apparently disgusted her to the point of her needing to make a face. How would I enforce a boundary when shes got nothing to lose?
Great response from LH. But even better would be to quit talking to her. Keep it to business only. She starts getting chatty then tell her you've got things to do and end the convo. Work on that detachment.
