Maybe I’m confused or missing something. I get that you don’t want to overreact, but isn’t this person your girlfriend? LH’s response about being more open than others here caught my attention and made me wonder if I had misread something. If you’d said this was someone you were casually dating and this happened, it would be one thing, but if this is someone you are in a committed relationship with, that is a whole other issue to me. Either way, you should definitely talk to her and tell her your expectations and be firm and direct about it, but to me personally, it is still a red flag if y’all are committed and she did it. Would she be ok if you had done it? Likely not.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
