O, she is in a dark place. No doubt about it. Very dark. You are doing classical newbie mistakes, but thst's ok. But you snapping at the good people here that only are only trying to help is wrong. You are forhetting that many of us have years and years of experience at this and we have came across hundreds of stories like yours. Believe or not, but your actions are pursuit. It might work, but the vast majority of cases say otherwise
It is OK to disagree with our advice, but please show some respect to the people whoo took time from their lives to help you.
The only one I "snapped" at was someone who snapped at me for doing something and then did it twice themselves, from a position of much less information. They apparently wanted to attack me for my mistakes (that I had already said were wrong). They were not attempting to be helpful, but only to criticize past actions. That was very disrespectful.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.