I think you need to continue practice detaching. You are already improving on that so keep it up.
Originally Posted by belleva
I don't really know what I am supposed to be doing. Can you all tell me what I should be doing? How often should I see him? How should I behave when I see him?
There is no right answer. You really sort of have to experiment yourself for your sitch. What's working for you? If you are putting your head on his shoulder and it makes you feel all those negative emotions, you should probably stay away from doing that. You do NOT need to make effort to create good vibes for him. Like you said, there's no excuse for being a liar and a cheater. You be the best you for YOU. The DB way is to not pursue. And all that creating good vibes thing is pursuit.
