Captain, do you mind saying how much you currently weigh?
6'2" about 270.
I once (before I met my wife) weighed close to 400 lbs, and lost weight down to around 210. I gained some back after surgery and was probably about 235 when I met her. Once I was in a relationship I got more complacent and she kept getting me food (her sister once joked she was getting me fat so I wouldn't leave). I think I was around 300 when we got married, and have kind of bounced up and down in the 30 lb range between 270 and 300 since. She tried to get me into some workout place she liked and it was not good for me (I have some neck/back issues from my previous weight and a work injury). It just made me want to eat more, and caused some injuries which meant I couldn't exercise at all.
I've quit that and and just doing things my way that I know works, and doing well. She's not making it easy as she has loaded up the house with snack food (something I have asked her not to do several times over the last few years) in response to this coronavirus. But, I'm managing and avoiding it for the most part.
On separate notes - she did not try to go out of town to her concert today. Also, another thing leading up to last week's (first week of March) more pleasant. When I was doing the wrong thing and pursuing (or as I put it, just choosing to love her, no matter how she reacted), I got her flowers and a card for Valentine's Day. When she saw them, she told me "thanks, but please don't do anything like this again." Then later in the day she texted me and thanked me for the flowers and said they looked pretty. The following week (6 days later) I noticed when I got home that she had thrown the card I got her in the trash. But then later, after she got home again, I saw that she had retrieved it from the trash and put it with her things. The trash can happens to be in site of one of our cameras, so I checked it to make sure I hadn't been mistaken when I thouggt I saw it in the trash. Sure enough, earlier in the day she could be clearly seen putting it in the trash, and later she goes to retrieve it once I leave the room.
