It’s ok you informed H’s family. At some point we all tell it like it is and let the chips fall where they do. It is unsurprising that S-MIL didn’t know or hear about this from H.
Originally Posted by CanBird
Since we are clearly on the path to no return, D, I'm DONE being super nice...
Focus on you and D3. Yes, super nice is not needed, and won’t work. Roommate, friendly - it’s for you.
All the suggestions and advice is for you, to help you. It also can give the best chance at busting this, outlasting this.
You and H may be on the path to D. However a few things to note:
You and H walk separate paths. Everyone walks their own path. We choose to walk beside someone. You and H were never on the “same” path, and you aren’t now. You and H walked side by side for a long time. Choose your path and let H go on his.
The future is unknown and will reveal itself in time. There may be a return. H is maybe on a path to D. He may turn around, he may head off in another direction, who knows. What path are you on?
You path, your choices, make them for you. Leave H to his choices and path; he’s going to make them anyhow, you cannot control that.
Return your focus to you and D3.
Detached roommate. Let go of H.
Ensure your financial security and protection (business side), and keep moving forward.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
