I totally understand how you feel. Aren't we LBSs so considerate to think about their inconveniences and what is the minimum we could do to help them when they've shown nothing like that to us? I think tough love is needed in your case.
Originally Posted by Pommy99
What I’m unsure about now, is how to position myself in regard to being the lighthouse but not being his friend. How does that work?
Sorry I haven't read your whole thread....for me, when my H initiates contact because he's feeling down and needs someone to talk to, I will respond and offer words of encouragement minimally. But I respond to these mainly because my H has been suicidal and he really has no one else to talk to. I almost never initiate contact unless it's logistics or I am seriously worried about his well-being as our children's father. If your H has other friends he can lean on, let him go to those friends for friendship. You're being the lighthouse by not filing D.
