I talked to my coach again and specifically brought up advice from the message board. His take was that in my past I've been the alpha, a bit of an A-hole, unyielding, not empathetic, I was very defensive, I would withdraw, etc.
So my 180 is to be more gentle, caring, loving, forgiving.
Not pleading and begging - just more empathetic.
I have seen some results that would seem to be moving things away from the Divorce cliff. So for now, its just continuing to work on being the best Me I can be by focusing on the points made above.
