All new to me

[DonH]

You’ve not talked much about this guy - and that in itself may be saying something. Based on the little you have said and in knowing how you’ve handled and spoke about other guys, I agree, you’re just not that into him. The chemistry is just not there. You say you don’t have a type and you may not but this guy is not your type. You poo-poo’d his not drinking and if it was JUST that it might be okay but it’s part of the package of who he is. You said you wanted a boring Netflix and chill guy. Well you’ve got it. But the chemistry is just not their. If it was you would not be able to help yourself from telling us how great he was and how wonderful things were. He’s just not it.

And all of that’s okay. Good even that you are holding out for the right guy. I do the same for the right girl. I don’t nessisarily set out to but it’s what I feel. It’s not even that there is anything wrong with him. He’s likely not a bad guy - he just doesn’t do it for you. You don’t think about him all the time, can’t wait to see him, e5c. - at least it doesn’t seem that way. You’ve given it a chance, you’ve given him a chance. It’s just not there. That’s dating. It’s okay. It’s normal

While I still just chalk it up to not a match, I do wonder if the lack of challenge has a piece in this. Other than the first week or two where he asked you out last minute, he pretty much made you his GF very early on. There was very little challenge or mystery for you. And you claimed that’s what you wanted. Just like you claimed Netflix and chill was what you wanted. The coach and others would say this is a route to the friend zone. Who knows. It just is interesting that some times what we think we want is not what we really want. Just something to think about.