H actually sent me an email at 5am after that night to "document his pain" because according to him, I have chose to state "alternative facts."
I did not respond.
I watched this Ted talk on gaslighting today. Gaslighting - when someone manipulates you into questioning your own sanity.
things to do (recommended by the speaker): 1. Remain defiant - do not change your story 2. Recognize you will never get accountability, the gaslighter will never respond to logic and reasoning 3. Letting go of the wish for the situation to be different 4. Stop engaging, develop a healthy detachment
Sounds very much like DBing doesn't it?
And after watching the video, I realized that the one expectation I have yet to drop is expecting that I can reason with H with logic. And I do need to let go of the wish for things to be different.
He is gaslighting me, but I think he's saying that I am gaslighting him?? What do I do about that??
