She wants to be with me and my W is jealous of that. I just feel guilty I guess. I also know I'm subconsciously opening dialogue with my W and that's why I shouldn't do it. I've been pretty good about not doing it for the past week.
YOU feel guilty? Why?! From what I've heard you seem like a great father... You may have some part in this, but your W is being wayward. Zero reason to feel guilt!
You need to let go and realize that 50% (?) of the time you have NO control and actually NO say in your daughters life, unless there is abuse. The only thing that might make a difference here (since jurisdiction might be different) is if you want to and think you have a chance at getting full custody. Then you might handle things differently. Like Brside said you D will be completely fine! So in general, STOP asking! (Totally fine to not promptly stop immediately, but within the next week) I am assuming you don't call daycare everyday and ask how she? When and if your W asks be VERY short! "She's good". Nothing else, and let her wait a few hours! W is LOW LOW LOW priority for you now. Be strong!!!
Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021
