Wow. I really need to know that. She told me today the letter/email is almost done. She also called me today saying how overwhelmed and scared she is because of the Corona virus. She asked to call, cried, told me she's scared, but I held my ground. Validated but that was it. I know she is trying to reel me back in. Trying to stay strong!
IMO you should not of taken the call - she is Temp checking.
I would peronally wouldn't even open the email / letter.. as stated before, it will probably be gas lighting or abuse anyway - and what she's written won't be how she feels in a week or how she did actually feel before the affair.... My WW gave me a big speech about how she has never been happy with me since our first child was born ( 8 years prior to BD ) - hmmm ok - why did we have 2 more children and she was always asking to get engaged / married ?.
In the post 2 days ago you state you told your wife to only contact you re your daughter.. She has ignored that request and you chose to answer / validate.
You will read here on numerous posts the quote "Your wife fired you as a husband" - If your employer fired you and then called you to dicuss something would you take the call and validate ? The only reason you would do that is if you wanted the job back. You need to let go of the rope. You took the call and validated as you want your wife back. You need to stick to the boundaries.
You say it yourself - she was trying to reel you back in - Well you need to stop allowing this. You cant control her - you can control you.
If my WW calls i ignore - she ALWAYS then sends a message "Please answer" - my reply is always the same "Text only". That was i can filter the drama and whats kids related or not..
You need to be strong..
Totally randomly, i also got a text last night from the WW - out of the blue.. "This Corona Virus is Mental!!!" - and i just ignored it.
Be strong !
Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..
Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.
