De-escalation is definitely my goal now. This was only the third time I've spoken to him in person since I found out about the affair in October, so I have done pretty well at not engaging overall. Kid changeovers are generally very quick with no interaction. There were some things that needed to be said on my part this time for my own closure, but now it's time to grey rock. The next time he tries to engage, I will politely but firmly say that the only topic we need to discuss is childcare and we can do that over email or text.
I unfriended the rest of his family on social media before deciding to deactivate my accounts altogether. Staying in MLC and infidelity groups was keeping me stuck. I asked our mutual friends to please avoid talking about him or informing me what he's doing. I've asked my group of friends to hold me accountable on my decision to stop discussing the marriage, affair, or divorce. I'm really, truly ready to put it all behind me and move on with the next chapter of my life with S2. Whether that means stopping my posts here, I'm not sure yet. If nothing else, this has been an effective way to document times, dates and incidents.
Thanks to all who have read and replied to my posts over the past nine months. It has been a source of comfort and reassurance during dark times. Onwards and upwards!
